Routine

I have never been really good at following my own routines. Therefore, I have always been drawn to organizations that are prescriptive; I was an air cadet, I played in school bands, I did nursing in college, and I always did well at those things. When I am presented with deadlines and clear expectations, I am an absolute rockstar.
This new phase of my life presents some major challenges as far as developing my routine goes. I am a stay-at-home-mom and housewife now. Anything that I manage to do in a day is because I set that goal for myself, and to be honest, I’m not that great at it. There’s no evaluation and feedback phase. Without anyone to please, what I do is just for me, and I still have a hard time accepting that *I’m* worth it.
Here are the things I like to have done in a day:
-Dinner made
-A load of laundry done
-Living room picked up
-Garbage taken out
-Dishes done
-Floor swept
That doesn’t seem too hard, does it?

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4 thoughts on “Routine

  1. I, too find it immensely difficult to do things for myself. It’s a challenge sometimes to make a list and stick to it when it’s far, far easier just to sit in front of the computer or game console and do nothing.

    Which is not to say that I’m lazy either. In similar way to you, if I’m given specific targets or goals from others, I will not disappoint. And yet I still have difficulty prioritizing my own interests.

    I wonder why that is?

  2. Oh I hear you! Honestly, getting my head around being a housewife has been a much bigger challenge for me than getting used to being a Mom. I’m also much better at following someone else’s schedule and meeting someone else’s expectations than making and keeping my own. I have a tendency to see yet-to-be-scheduled time as free time and act accordingly. What’s helped for me is eating on a schedule (read: meals & snacks around the same time everyday) – which I can justify by saying it’s for my kids’ sake when the lazybones strike – and planning appointments and play-dates earlier in the day as much as possible. That way I’m at least up and dressed at a decent hour. I also try to make a point of acknowledging the tasks I ended up doing that weren’t on my to-do list, like my toddler’s emergency bath that trumped folding laundry, rather than beating myself up for doing “nothing”. It’s not a perfect system, but it helps me from melting entirely into entropy. Hang in there!

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